In this episode we talk about personalities. Particularly we discuss some of the nuances of the Myers-Briggs personality profile. You can explore those profiles and take a personality test at 16personalities.com.
Different personalities in our homes can bring different conflicts. As parents, we must help our children navigate resolving these conflicts and understanding where the other person is coming from.
We talk in this episode about two big areas of conflict: “I wouldn’t do it that way!” and “It’s not fair!”
A couple of tools to resolve these conflicts are:
- REFRAMING: where we take a step back and have each side share their side of the story. Often this allows us to see the underlying issues and help gain a clearly understanding of the other person’s perspective.
- PRIORITIZING: We must check to see if our reaction reflects the magnitude of the offense. If not, we must dig deeper to see why and then come up with a different approach.
- TAKE A BREAK: Sometimes, we need to step back and let the situation cool off before we move any further towards resolution.
Ultimately, we want to see our children value each other’s perspective and ultimate well-being. Particularly, we want our children to grow into the people God wants them to be, and that includes their own desire for that growth in each other. Spend some time this week investigating the personalities in your house. We’d love to hear your findings. Leave us a comment. Be Abnormal!