Just behind wanting our children to love Jesus is a parent’s desire for their child to marry the right spouse and have a fulfilling future marriage. In today’s episode we talk about some of those issues, give some ideas on talking points and review Voddie Baucham’s book “What He Must Be…If He Wants To Marry My Daughter.”
Here’s some of the highlights from the book:
- He must be a follower of Jesus Christ.
- He must be prepared to lead like Christ.
- He must be committed to children.
- He must practice being a Protector, a Provider, a Priest, and a Prophet.
While this book is aimed at parents of daughters, it easily applies for parents who want to encourage their sons to be the right kind of man.
In the end we want to encourage parent’s to start good conversations with their children about marriage. This decision is too important to not have intentional discussions…and to be daily praying for our children in this area. Start today!
As parents, we want to help our children grow from dependent to independent. But, as the Fuller Youth Institute points out in their book Growing With, we ultimately want to move to a healthy place of interdependence where we still have influence and input into our child’s life decisions – our role just changes.
(We review Growing With, in Episode 3 of our podcast.)
One of those areas of life decision that is enormously important is the realm of relationships. In this EPISODE, we discuss how becoming a safe hub for your child’s peer group can be a great way to continue that path towards independence. Here’s some of the big ideas we covered:
- Say “Yes” when you can.
- Be available but give them space.
- Keep food around. A lot of food!
- Take interest in their friends.
We’d love to hear your comments and questions. Connect with us via the comments on this post or leave us a review on the podcast platform of your choice. Until next time, Be Abnormal!
As we raise our children, we have to realize the REAL goal is getting them to love and serve Jesus as the Lord of their life. To do that, we need to learn how to partner our family with the Good News of Jesus.
In today’s episode, we talked about some practical ways to partner:
- Practice faith-filled prayers.
- Discuss responses to church services we attend.
- Make non-church friends a welcome norm in our homes and lives.
- Make sure your children know and can share the message of salvation.
- Create opportunities to serve as a family.
- Pray together as a family for your children’s future ministry opportunities.
So start those discussions, pick an action step, and Be Abnormal!
Do you struggle with knowing how to answer your kids’ questions about faith? Or maybe you just struggle getting them to talk about it at all. And yet it is one of the most vital, close-to-the-heart issues we have as parents – will our kids choose to believe the truth. Or maybe more specifically, will they know and trust Jesus with their life?
In this EPISODE, we talk about some of the responses and approaches to help walk your adolescents and young adults through the process of knowing what they believe.
Here’s some things to remember when responding to their questions:
- It’s about a person and a relationship. More than a set of ideas, philosophies or tenets, we are talking about getting to know Jesus. It has to start with Him. He’ll walk them through the rest. How are you introducing your children to Jesus?
- It’s about trust and faith. We aren’t necessarily looking for all the answers, but learning to trust the one who has all the answers. If we really believe God is who He says He is, we’ll trust Him for the unknowns.
- It’s about personal evaluation and commitment. We’ve got to move from ideas to actions. We have to remind our children that they ultimately are responsible for owning what they believe.
At the end we talked about a whole bunch of resources to guide them:
- A Study Bible. This is foundational. A few that we really recommend are The CSB Everyday Study Bible, The ESV Study Bible, and net.bible.org.
- Entry Level Reading. A couple of really accessible reads on belief are Doctrine by Mark Driscoll and Gerry Breshears and Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis.
- For some deeper, longer reading on these topics, we recommend The Westminster Shorter Catechism, Essential Truths of the Christian Faith by R.C. Sproul, and Knowing God by J.I. Packer.
If you haven’t already, make a plan today to guide your children’s faith development. Be Abnormal!
Thanks for joining us for our 25th EPISODE!! As we enter our seventh month of this podcast, we thought we’d have some fun and offer a bunch of great family game ideas.
We love playing games with our families. Here are some of our very favorites:
- PANDEMIC – a board game about stopping global viral infections. Currently, a very relevant game.
- PUERTO RICO – a resource management board game where you have to settle the island of Puerto Rico and export goods.
- BALDERDASH – A creative game of bluffing that always ends up with some great laughs.
- THE INDEX CARD GAME (Also known at TELESTRATIONS) – this drawing and writing game always ends with surprises.
- APPLES TO APPLES – The classic category game.
- CATCHPHRASE APP – This mobile version of the popular game can be found on Google Play or Apple App Store.
We also talked about games that anyone can play. Here’s some we like:
- UNO/UNO ATTACK – Getting rid of those cards together!
- EXPLODING KITTENS – A hilarious unique card game.
- THE RESISTANCE – Find the spies among you in this dystopian future game.
- BANANAGRAMS – Like Scrabble but better…and faster.
And lastly we talked about more active games, like…
- KAN JAM – Throwing frisbees into cans. It’s the best.
- SARDINES – A more uncomfortable version of hide and seek.
- WASHERS – What else would you do with washers, but throw them into boxes.
And lastly, we mentioned one of Mark’s family’s favorites – CRANIUM HULLABALOO – which we found out is a popular, out-of-print game. We’re not sure it’s worth the online price tag, but it is fun!
So pick a game and plan a party with your family. And, as always, Be Abnormal!!
In this EPISODE, we talk about the biggest, deepest, most foundational question of all humanity – who do you think you are? In answering that question, we take a look at Mark Driscoll’s book and study guide of the same name.
This book is a study of the biblical book of Ephesians and pulls out fifteen powerful statements that define who we are when we are “in Christ”. Among them are the concepts that we are Saints, Adopted, Heard and Accepted. It further helps us see that we often look to wrong things to find our identity when we should be looking to our Creator.
Here’s a great acronym to help us evaluate if we are looking in the wrong places (IDOL):
- Items – the trap of materialism
- Duties – the trap of leaning on our own strength and ability
- Others – the trap of putting others in a place that only God can fill
- Longings – the trap of wanting things our way rather than God’s way
Some ideas to help parents have this conversation with their children is:
- Read the book of Ephesians and pull out the identity statements found there.
- Consider getting Mark Driscoll’s book WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? and its companion Study Guide.
- Find ways to affirm our God given identity in ours and our children’s lives. Some of the ways we do that is change our language and check our goals.
Until next week – Be Abnormal!